Is Feminism Killing Young Boys


In a late-2015 TEDx talk, The Boy Crisis: A Sobering Look at the State of Our Boys, Dr. Warren Farrell discussed how those who support equality for all promote perspectives that shortchange one group, in particular: young males. Among other things, he noted that nine-year-old boys are killing themselves four times as often as girls, and yet women’s organizations have remained oddly silent. These so-called advocates of fairness have been quick to claim ownership of the “gender equality” megaphone for their own purposes, but have not taken its message to heart in a meaningfully inclusive way.

In truth, feminist’s efforts to level the playing field are targeted in one direction ­– toward the privileged and protected class of women. Rob Whitley Ph. D. reported in Psychology Today, The European Parliament Committee for Women’s Rights and Gender Equality produced a February 2017 report that was adopted by Parliament and ignored any issues for boys and men. The United Kingdom’s boy suicide rate parallels America. There is a disturbing lack of interest in dealing with boys’ equality concerns, especially those related to the challenges young males face and how they are treated – or mistreated – during those times in their lives when they are most vulnerable. Simply put, the gendered lens has been firmly fixed on female inequality and the national conversation on this topic is focused solely on them. Sadly, our boys are losing out.

Women’s Studies is Constructing Androphobia

Women’s studies propagandists have played a major role in bringing this situation about. Because of their relentlessly one-sided, self-serving mantras, we live in a lopsidedly biased world where all females are viewed as the victims of male aggression, violence, sexual abuse and inequality. Instead of being key social members to community growth and survival, boys are portrayed as merely stereotypical rapists and women-beaters in training.

Unfortunately, the influence of these college studies has been painfully far-reaching. The violent statements made like “all men are rapists”, “eviscerate white men” and “dismantle patriarchy” carry dangerous messages. Over time, many of those who’ve been exposed to their toxic theories, including impressionable students on college campuses, have developed an antipathy toward males that borders on religious fervor. By not promoting an open and honest discussion about genders issues for men and women, these so-called egalitarians have fostered widespread androphobia – an abnormal and persistent fear of men and a hatred of the male sex. It is not surprising that festering crises such as the boy suicide epidemic is at hand.

Western Society is Unlearning Masculinity

Still, what is more surprising is how feminism ignores the boy’s crisis and instead attempts to make boys more like girls. But not everyone accepts this state of affairs where boys should be overlooked or emasculated. The Chinese, for example, are actively serving up antidotes to notions that spawn over-protected boys who have become neutered or physically and emotionally weak. Among other things, they are teaching masculinity in grades 4-5 and recruiting male teachers that can serve as positive role models. One of their primers, Little Men, advocates for bravery, independence and confidence, in contrast to Western countries that blur gender identity by teaching feminist concepts and enforcing gender neutrality. Although some children undoubtedly benefit from learning about LGBTQ topics, for example, they may confuse those without the proper grounding.

Role models and inspirational life examples for young boys are necessary but hard to find in the U.S., where the situation is anything but progressive. For 10-year-old American males, the gender lens is jam-packed with stereotypes and micro-aggressive mantras that belittle their sex – especially males who are straight – and masculinity. Subjected to endless pronouncements about hegemonic masculinity being toxic and violent, they are regularly told they are not “fitting in,” while female peers are given positive feedback “atta girl” and “high-fives” all along the way. Meanwhile, the federal government urges educators to encourage young females toward our STEM – science, technology, engineering and math – future, but does not do the same for boy counterparts.

From most young boys perspective the message coming through loud and clear is that boys are effectively disposable, a jaded distortion that can burrow deep down and severely undermine the psyche of sensitive youngsters. This notion that boys are “bad” and girls are “good” or “why can’t boys be like girls” is a form of bigotry that has not only been systematically embedded into our mainstream consciousness, but has, astonishingly, somehow been transformed into one of our society’s higher truths.

Needless to say, this creates profound and disturbing ethical issues. In a culture where boys are confused about their gender, place and purpose in the world, it is not hard to see how communally constructed sexism is promulgating mental health issues that often manifest themselves in self-destructive or anti-social behaviors – including, as noted earlier, boys killing themselves.

According to a Psychology Today article by Dr. Miles Groth, “Young Men Who Commit Suicide,” little is understood about what motivates boys and young men to take their lives in such numbers. Of great concern is the fact that little effort is being made to get to the bottom of this development. Parents, educators and communities that might otherwise be outraged by any number of trivial issues affecting their children are ignoring a growing crisis, masked in part by the falsehoods of feminism, and failing to identify what is driving our youth toward the depths of depression and despair.

Dismantling Patriarchy

Sadly, many strains of feminists are more intent on imposing their will on others than addressing what really ails boys and men. They harbor a burning obsession to dismantle or “smash” patriarchy and destroy civilization as we know it. Some are so fearful and emotionally wounded that they believe true vindication can only come from eradicating the current societal framework and eliminating men, even if that leads to vulnerable young boys ending their lives.

In an interview with Joe Rogan, Dr. Jordan Peterson argues that women’s studies propagandist are determined to instigate a social revolution and restructure our society from the ground up. They seek to bring about anarchy and replace the current system with matriarchy, a system that has rarely survived for long in its prior incarnations. To realize their ambitions, they are willing to undermine civilization and all of the true progress that has been made throughout the ages.

If these anarchists get their way, it may well mean a world buffeted by shortages and failings of what most of us take for granted, including our infrastructure, water and food production mechanisms, and transportation systems. Getting rid of men will devalue or even devastate an evolutionary process that has kept many of us safe and secure in the face of home grown and foreign threats. More than likely, instead of achieving feminist nirvana, the outcome of such misguided ambitions will be horrors such as mass starvation and death by dehydration.


During the steam engine era, many people believed that traveling more than 30 miles per hour would be dangerous to human health, but it wasn’t long before that threshold was exceeded by a wide margin. Indeed, supported by a male-dominated system that die-hard feminists condemn, innovation has allowed us to blow through endless constraints without even blinking an eye. In the view of astrophysicist and author Neil deGrasse Tyson, the patriarchal institutions of the sciences, technology and engineering will skyrocket our world towards tomorrow at speeds most have probably never imagined.

Feminism has become undignified and whether this anti-male crowd accepts it or not, patriarchy has shaped our history and can successfully sculpt the uncertain future ahead of us. It has been the foundation of monumental accomplishments and helped fuel endless exploration and creation for the benefit of all. Hopefully, as this truth becomes more widely understood, it will accelerate the shift in gender politics that are already underway. Social awareness will check feminism’s power and a true balanced equality approach will exist. Eventually, the empty ideologies promoted by feminist dinosaurs and the delusional scholars responsible for the women’s studies-driven war on men will be seen in retrospect as ancient folk tales. The old feminist utopia meme will be truthfully reinterpreted as a byproduct of resentment and fantasies based on jealousy and mental health problems.


As society assimilates the “Red Pill’s” progressive reawakening of social justice, suicide will be understood, schools and parents will begin to guide young boys and girls through healthy life paths by identifying what truly ails them and intervening with gender and age-appropriate solutions. People will learn to embrace, rather than deny, gender differences that uplift, inspire and empower human rights for girls and boys, and for society as a whole.

About the Author

Tim Patten has published the handy investment guide: MGTOW Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation moveme

Warning :: College Masculinities

The Mask You Live Inmaskyou

A college professor and close friend teaches a course called “Masculinities,” which claims to explore the topic in depth. Since the subject of challenges facing modern men is a favorite of mine, nothing could stop me from diving deep into the material. I began with the teaching aid developed by leading-edge researchers: a slick and tightly edited documentary, The Mask You Live In. It catalogued the experiences of boys and young men as they struggled to remain true to themselves while negotiating American societies narrowly defined notions of masculinity.

For us males, discovering our masculine selves when we are young can be challenging. When I was a boy, I experienced humiliation, teasing and bloody fights on my uninformed journey to manhood. Hence, the prospect of a new curriculum excites me; after four decades of supporting the women’s and gay liberation movements, it seems like educators may finally be taking the need to address male issues seriously. By doing that, they can help destroy the inhumane school-to-prison pipeline–promulgated by public school systems–that many boys fall into. “The Mask You Live In” seemed to hold great promise and offer hope for our future.

Sadly, that is not the case. The documentary begins with images and news reports, interwoven in a video collage of mass shootings, young boys committing suicide, gang rapes of college girls, and individuals being violently targeted for fun. After only a few moments, it is made clear that these acts reflect toxic masculinity. Warning: Unlike many college students whose minds have not been trained to see through such propaganda, I recognize it for what it is: an extension of the unfair lens associated with most popular social theories. It is a biased stew emanating from the process-oriented minds of feminists, incorporating such notions as rape culture and the white male privileged patriarchy as seen from a non-male perspective.

The perspective of the documentary sets me immediately on edge. Based on my own research and analysis, it is not patriarchal males who control the levers of domination and control; rather, the culprits are the wealthy oligarchy, of no particular gender or race. This group of one-percenters employs the vast resources at their disposal to further enrich themselves and exert their will through ownership of whatever matters, relentless political influence and their ability to corrupt the system by spreading money around.

Admittedly, I saw some hopeful glimmers after watching the film four times, but they were never fully developed into tools or methods that might help boys and men. The warm embers are never given the oxygen they need for high octane combustion. Talking about a boy’s pain or anger “behind the mask” is a good starting point, but it only scratches the surface. And while I absolutely loved the man who taught himself to coach the individuals he came to know–a skill all of us should learn to use–the documentary clearly falls short.

Warning: In many ways, the movie simply does not connect with the essence of genuine masculinity.  Among other things, it fails to establish an adequate link between what boys do and why. Below are six unsafe assumptions about males it seems to rest on that are worth mentioning:

  1. Boys suppressing emotions is a social construct. In showcasing stereotypes about negative male behavior–that they are defective, unemotional, dominating and violent–the film helps to perpetuate them. While it seems to come across as a grand attempt at understanding masculinity, the message is lacking at its core. It does not balance the so-called destructive elements against a multitude of masculine virtues and their contributions to society.

It also makes incomplete and false assertions. Warning: The documentary maintains that males don’t share feelings as an outlet like girls do, without noting that many reduce emotional stress through physical workouts. It doesn’t make reference to the fact that men and women process emotions differently, or that the former tend to be results-oriented while the latter are people-interaction-oriented. There’s a timeless narrative about a couple lost in the city, where a male is studying a map while the female asks somebody on the street for directions.

Warning: In truth, these sorts of dangerously inaccurate misstatements about emotional expression can instill anxiety, anger, depression and suicidal thoughts into young boy’s minds.

  1. Masculinity is a social construct. The audio track focuses on what most of us already know from personal experience: society’s fixation on hyper-masculinity, whether in sports, the military, music and the arts, and the canyons of Wall Street, and the way in which they allegedly inspire a quest for power, dominance and control. We are told that these represent false goals for mastering or investing in masculinity; boys find it hard to choose wisely because of peer pressure or the wolf pack power hierarchy.

However, the film fails to take things one step further and explain how boys can be coached to navigate childhood bullying or the treacherous realities of surviving up to and throughout adulthood. In many cases, especially in some more disadvantaged locales, they are left on their own to navigate a survival-of-the-fittest ladder with nothing more than their wits and abilities. Warning: Without fully addressing both the concerns and the solutions, the film offers little in the way of assisting boys in discovering genuine masculinity.

  1. Violence is a social construct. One the film’s biggest distortions stems from its exploitation of violence as the definition of who we are. We see a multitude of images of men and boys–the male patriarchy–being explosive, and a cavalcade of white heterosexual men exerting dominance throughout our culture. Worse yet, it implies that violent video games, action movies, superheroes and thugs encourage males to accept a domestic violence culture.

Warning: In reality, such perspectives can leave viewers with the false and dangerous notion that dominant men cause domestic violence and that the victims are invariably women. While most of us will probably agree that our society as a whole is much too violent, evidence suggests that the problem is different than many think. Women in same-sex relationships experience more than twice the extent of physical and sexual abuse than heterosexual couples do. If women’s studies programs, for example, were serious about reducing violence, they might want to study the petri dish in their own backyards.

Sexual assault and rape are a social construct. Warning: When it comes to rape, I question why the documentary did not leverage that fact that men are raped, physically assaulted, attacked and killed at much higher rates, but masculinity protects them from seeking safe spaces or turning into traumatized victims. Women can learn this male specific virtue and live more courageously.

  1. The documentary also discusses pornography, sexual attraction and the fact that male and female interaction could not be more out of sync. This is “proof” that the sexes are nowhere near “equal.” Warning: Conflating the word “equality” to imply that men and women have the same emotional drives, instincts and behavioral reactions is wrong and perilously harmful. The feelings that men have and express toward women–appreciation, adoration, desire, lust and objectification–are seen as harassment and misogyny. Warning: Somehow, natural male interest in the opposite sex has been transformed into an ideology where men believe they are superior, entitled, privileged and deserves sex.

Many women don’t seem to understand our instinctual behavior, preferring instead to reprimand us for glorifying sexual conquests, or for being pick-up artists or womanizers. Many are quick to toss the male sex drive into the misogyny bucket, simply because it is not like their own. Some also demand that those they date follow a strict set of rules, in an effort to harness the wild stallion of innate male nature. The rules of monogamy are often enforced with power, dominance and violence by women.

But such notions are wholly misguided. In fact, by studying gay men–many of whom, ironically enough, have been ardent female rights supporters–women might realize that their understanding is at odds with reality. In some parts of gay culture, for instance, young males experiment with exhibitionism, cruising pickups, multi-racial lovers, fetish affairs, anonymous encounters, kink and role-playing, and multi-partner intimacy. Through sexual physicality, men can discover inner boundaries, self-esteem and love.

Moreover, in some situations, gay men grope, catcall, make lewd comments and touch one another using behavioral consent on a regular basis, which doesn’t sound at all like they are seeking to dominate and demean each other. Warning: Again, the notion that male sexual behavior is bad because it is different from that of a female is another example of how the film’s message is like a woman publicly spanking and scolding boys for natural masculine urges.

  1. Dropping out of school is a social construct. The film delves deep into the male failure to adjust to the educational system from pre-kindergarten on up. But once again, it misses facts well understood by others. Hegemonic masculinity is not holding boys back or leading them to drop out. The blame goes to the public schools, which do not devote the time or have the know-how necessary to engage with boys. The Federal common core one-size-fits-all directive, which mandates that everyone receives an identical serving of education, is failing young males because it does not recognize that they learn at different rates and times, and through dissimilar methodologies, than girls.

However, when young males are placed in private or charter schools for boys, they tend to thrive, readily engage with others in conversation, and take to such activities as singing in the choir, playing in the band and investigating their feminine sides, largely because they are not being shamed in front of females or don’t feel obligated to “peacock” for the girls.

Simply put, the public school system’s politically correct but misguided implementation of mindless diversity and a white-washed curriculum, as well as a lack of resources tailored to the needs of each child, is the root cause why many boys, especially those of color, fall by the wayside and experiment with alcohol, substance abuse, gang affiliation and criminal activity. But by rethinking the obsolete approach and considering the needs of young males in their formative–and most vulnerable–years, helping them to express their inner virtues, we can tackle what appears to be an intractable problem.

  1. Fear of masculinity is a social construct. Finally, by spiking an already exaggerated fear in girls and women, a great many of whom experience virtually continuous anxiety about male violence and rape, the documentary producers only make matters worse. A recent BuzzFeed article, for example, outlined 29 everyday activities that ordinary women avoid because they are frozen and apprehensive about being attacked or abused by a male.

By focusing on constructive solutions rather than self-serving propaganda and destructive recriminations, the now wasted efforts of women’s studies programs and so-called equal opportunity initiatives could be focused instead on developing programs that could help women work through these and other unhealthy emotions. These females could then be free of the tension that is holding them back from enjoying a more fearless, strong and independent life.

Expand the Lens

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve used what I’ve learned to amplify my old one-way feminist lens and see what I believe is a far more diverse and inclusively humanist view of our world. While I applaud the film’s attempts to explore what has become an urgently important  issue, as well as its seemingly well–intentioned portrayal of the struggles of boys–whose needs have largely been ignored and unaddressed–I am disenchanted.

Warning: In truth, the film ends up validating the women’s studies perspective about the masculinity they fear. Rather than leading to the kinds of reforms that will actually help our young people to better themselves, this creative effort will likely serve as a framework for introducing more laws and policies designed to protect women by giving them greater dominance and control over men.

Most likely, the divisive fallout we have already seen will grow much worse. In Nottinghamshire, England, for example, authorities are beginning to record misogyny, which includes everything from verbal comments and wolf whistling to unwanted physical approaches, as a hate crime. On college campuses in the U.S. and elsewhere, there are growing efforts to censor speech, individuals and events, often at the expense of white heterosexual males. While bigotry, sexism and racism are supposedly frowned upon, that is not the case with what has become a despised group.


I am saddened that men do not have the same treatment and opportunities that are available to others. Why aren’t there male studies programs, for instance, that can research and evaluate relevant issues and leverage genuine masculinity to lift up those of our gender. We are gifted machines, bestowed with attributes and abilities that can help us move mountains. Just as men built the pyramids of Egypt and other great wonders, we hope to continue to harness the world around us in a diverse and inclusive way.

I know my professor friend is an open-minded individual and he will not hate me for my views. Unlike many of those who have been dominating the conversation on campuses, in the media and elsewhere, we respectfully share each other’s insights in an effort to move all our lives forward.

About the Author

Tim Patten has published the handy investment guide: MGTOW, Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement. Patten previously published a novel about establishing gender equality in professional sports, Roller Babes: 1950s Women of Roller Derby. His coming out biography is titled My Razzle Dazzle and published under the pen name Todd Peterson.


Charter Schools for Inner City Boys


The time has come for a major revolution in our inner-city schools. Through an exciting Charter School Management Operations who offer Charter Schools for the Engagement of Boys, we can now arm a grassroots militia of young soldiers with an education that can enable them to lift their communities out of poverty and crime. Charter schools, along with the National Academy of Sciences and others, believe that the alarming situation we have now is closely linked to dysfunctional educational systems and circumstances where fathers are absent or are not productive members of society.

Charter school for boys intends to change this by introducing specialized elementary schools across the country that educate and inspire young males with passion, self-esteem and life skills that can help them to topple obstructions linked to the intersection of poverty, crime and racism. They believe that nurturing, male-oriented learning environments, rather than intimidation and boiler plated lessons, are what it takes to smash the iconography of violence and poverty permeating these neighborhoods. This innovative approach can heal structural hopelessness and lead alumni to choose productive careers and positive social structures.

With the right support and preparation, they can become police officers, firefighters, businessmen, and civic leaders, able to climb the societal ladder long dominated by a mostly white patriarchy. By boys with pride and inspiration, they can drink from the well of prosperity. Policing for profit and other acts of social oppression won’t be eliminated overnight, of course, but history has shown that education is the powerful catalyst for positive change. Over time, the long history of systemic political and public school failures can be transformed into a new and exciting future.

Policymaking and Public Schools have Neglected Inner City Boys

The introduction of new educational systems is long overdue. Self-interested politics and a policy of institutional neglect have failed our children and damaged our inner cities, as evidenced by 40 years of rising poverty, decay and lawlessness. Even where there is little disagreement about what needs to be done, such as ensuring public safety, failures are rife. These include “accidental” shootings of individuals who are merely suspected of doing something wrong.

And yet, while urban police departments are in desperate need of guidance and solutions, they are not getting them, largely because local, state and federal governments are dysfunctional or under the control of those with troubling agendas. When the presidential election cycle is in full swing, town halls resonate with upbeat calls from the political elite–“We should help lift people out of poverty and give them freedom. Vote for me.” Afterwards, little changes. Political platitudes disappear as male dropouts are exploited by bad elements and they end up embracing the dark side of the dug slinging streets.

The fallout from unresponsive governments is compounded by an increasingly sclerotic educational school system. According to Christina Hoff Sommers, Factual Feminist and author of the War Against Boys, public schools often fail at turning inner-city boys into achievers because the curriculum is rigid, inflexible and genericized, or is whitewashed and totally at odds with their needs. Teachers hide behind a one-size-fits-all template that spurs many students, mostly boys, to disengage and fall behind. Over time, a notable percentage skips school or drops out completely, enticed by criminal behavior and a brutally alluring comradery on the streets.

Unfortunately, when that happens, a community’s most valuable resource becomes its worst enemy. Increasingly, neighborhoods are being hijacked by a worrying increase in crime-laden streets and the pervasiveness of the incarceration culture. Sadly, it is young males of color who have been at the forefront of this implosion; according to the FBI, black juveniles comprise 53.3 percent of all arrests. With few exceptions, the vicious cycle has fed on itself, as the offspring of the abandoned become abandoned themselves.

But that doesn’t mean there is no hope. By introducing a new structure and reconfigured teaching approach, experts and scholars have created an institution that can destroy the school-to-prison pipeline and, in turn, reinvigorate a system that has let so many people down. By inculcating the “science of the male” into all areas of the curriculum and classroom experience, reversing the traditional narrative, boys can experience the achievement, self-respect and educational outcomes that allow them to thrive. They become a driving force of reform, imbuing mothers, fathers and other family members with genuine pride.


The Charter School Solution

All Charter School for the Engagement of Boys represents a real world solution that incorporates methods and a mission designed to connect with and encourage young males. Like backyard saplings transformed into great oaks, the boys in this program can grow tall, their arms extended like leaf-filled branches, offering an umbrella of hope and protection for others.

Charter schools have an impressive 20-year track record preparing students in educationally underserved communities for success in college. Liberated from boilerplate orthodoxies and red-tape regulations, they have been able to create flexible learning environments overseen, under the auspices of churches and other community organizations who understand the needs of those being served. Unlike detached bureaucrats who impose authority from afar, charter school “elders” can adjust to the realities on the ground and ensure that methods and goals are appropriate for students and the communities they live in.

The Science of the Male

One reason why proponents are so optimistic about the boys initiative is because it originates from the pioneering “The Science of the Male” as an approach based on years of rigorous and groundbreaking research on the state of males around the world. Among other things, their curriculum tackles critical issues head-on, with a syllabus that addresses traditional male learning difficulties within a well-defined learner-learning pedagogy.

More specifically, they have combined standard elementary school classwork with boy-specific tools to mold a firm but flexible framework aligned to the highest standards at age-appropriate stages. The learning environment they have developed integrates science of the male concepts into all major areas of study, as follows:

  • Embrace mathematical modeling of various brain aspects using interactions and assumptions that encourage the classic recognition principal, enabling assimilation of STEM concepts early on.
  • Employ techniques that manage the naturally hyperactive and restless nature of young males through processes and physical activities that are oriented toward discovering physical boundaries.
  • Integrate training efforts that address underlying issues of aggression and anger, helping to reduce, eliminate, and terminate conflicts and improve interpersonal and conflict management skills.
  • Emphasize structuring, setting and respecting boundaries.
  • Focus on teaching and improving reading, writing and math skills, including family arithmetic (e.g., the costs of running a home and birthing and raising children).
  • Incorporate personal management programs that promote self-respect and alter the core beliefs of insecurity, helping to dissolve negative emotional responses such as anger and jealousy.
  • Develop and encourage participation in regularly scheduled male empowerment events (e.g., “spend a day with a male role model”).
  • Adapt and embrace masculine characteristics such as integrity, courage, creativity, innovation, adaptability and compassion.

Incorporating these and other measures into a male-centric educational regime will serve as the impetus for stimulating and engaging young boys in hopeful learning, helping them discover true self- esteem and become productive members of society. By reorienting their natural masculinity with a laser-like focus towards virtuous outcomes, the charter schools for boys can prevent these children from falling victim to societal neglect or slipping through the cracks of an inadequate educational system.

How to Get Involved in the Revolutio

As with all organizations that seek positive change, a charter school needs operational and funding partners. Each charter school will require a community partner such as a church that employs an organizer–a self-starter with the time, skills and energy to communicate, reach out, email and phone others. As key local coordinators, these individuals will help breathe life into and provide CPR for damaged neighborhoods.

To support this long overdue change in the current narrative and help empower young males in their lives and communities, consider joining with the companies, institutions, donors, alumni and ordinary individuals around the country who are already doing their part. Partner with a charter school organization as a donor or sponsor, or lend a hand in some other way.

The time to act is now.

About the Author

Tim Patten has published the handy investment guide: MGTOW, Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement. Patten previously published a novel about establishing gender equality in professional sports, Roller Babes: 1950s Women of Roller Derby.



End Violence Against Women

Charter Schools a step forward in Ending Violence Against Women

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), roughly one in three women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetimes. In the U.S., this costs society more than $5.8 billion a year, with $4.1 billion of that total being spent on direct medical and mental health services.

Needless to say, efforts have been underway to change this, including stepped-up funding for organizations, programs and directives oriented toward ending violence against women. Unfortunately, most have come up short. Instead of reducing the numbers of such incidents or the economic and other damage they cause, the various initiatives have largely served to promote the interests of those organizations that have fostered the dangerous illusion that significant progress is being made.

Thankfully, one group of scholars, including  Dr. Edward Stephens, Marianne J Legato, MD, Ona Robinson Phd, Richard Elfebien and others, have been working on this. Over the past three years, they have been developing and gaining support for an approach designed to attack the problem at its roots. They have sought to address the needs of males in kindergarten through sixth grade and reduce the attractiveness of and pressure to acquire a “street education,” where boys sling drugs and commit crimes of passion without regard for the victims–or themselves.

Anecdotal and other evidence suggests that many violent crimes are carried out by once innocent boys who were essentially abandoned by the system, leading them to fall behind and eventually, drop out of school and divorce themselves from parental authority. Experts have warned about the fact that our public schools have failed as a safety net for these vulnerable members of society. Instead of taking pains to understand and adapt to their natural behavior, they punish boys and “treat” them with drugs.

Unfortunately, they are most likely to become marginalized–society’s weaker members, preyed upon at a high cost to all concerned. Research indicates that males who have been arrested for acts of domestic violence range in age from 19 to 24 on average, had numerous discipline problems in school, and likely did not complete their secondary education. If it takes a village to raise our children and help them become productive members of society, then we must ensure all of them are included.

Our Children are the Future

Protecting our young is the duty of each and every one of us. This includes ensuring that they are educated in environments that inspire passion and where contact with violence is minimal. Right now, this is not the case. Our educational system, notably our public schools, is exposing them to a minefield of conflicts–and worse. In 2013-2014 for example, about 58 percent of public schools reported one or more incidents of a physical attack or fight without a weapon. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, this translates to approximately 453,000 incidents at a rate of about nine crimes per 1,000 students.

Against this backdrop, Drs. Stephens and the Foundation of Male Studies (FMS) has been working to create a framework that alters the current dynamic, which has disproportionately affected certain groups. They are seeking to create an environment where all young male lives, regardless of race or circumstances, matter.  More specifically, they want to ensure that, contrary to now, a third of young boys of color do not end up in detention centers and indoctrinated into the underbelly of criminal behavior.

Under the auspices of the Foundation of Male Studies (FMS) these scholars have formulated an educational approach based on years of rigorous and groundbreaking research on the state of males around the world, and which incorporates findings from seventeen hard science disciplines including biology, sociology, literature, economics, psychology and medicine. The result is the Charter Schools for the Engagement of Boys, targeting primary school-age children.

Charter School for the Engagement of Boys


By incorporating an innovative curriculum that is relevant to, entices and inspires boys, especially those at risk, based on the United Nations Risk Factors for violence, a males well-being and lack of educational and socioeconomic attainment and the FMS scholars believe their cutting-edge teaching facility is hope for dramatically reducing the numbers of young boys–currently 6,000, most of whom are Hispanic and black–who drop out of school each day. The program is dedicated to improving opportunity for those who struggle in more traditional settings by emphasizing an instinctual masculine approach focused on reading and STEM–science, technology, engineering and mathematics.

The Science of the Male

Specifically, the new school’s foundations will rest on the “science of the male,” with a syllabus that addresses traditional male learning difficulties at all levels within a well-defined learner-learning pedagogy. It combines standard elementary school classwork with boy-specific tools, molded into a flexible and empathetic curriculum aligned to the highest standards at age-appropriate stages. The learning environment will integrate the science of male concepts in all areas of study, as follows:

  • Embrace mathematical modeling of various brain aspects using interactions and assumptions that encourage the classic recognition principal.
  • Employ techniques that manage the naturally hyperactive and restless nature of young males through processes and physical activities oriented toward discovering physical boundaries.
  • Take account of how male brains rely on unique hearing and sight cues.
  • Integrate training efforts that address underlying issues and embrace individual aggression and anger, helping to transform the conflict resolution process and improve social skills.
  • Emphasize structuring, setting and respecting boundaries.
  • Incorporate debate and discussion drills that teach students how to navigate opposing arguments that feature diametrical opinions.
  • Employ personal management programs that improve inner security and change the core beliefs of insecurity, helping to dissolve emotions such as anger and jealousy.
  • Teach and enhance problem-solving techniques.
  • Adapt and embrace masculine characteristics such as integrity, courage, creativity, innovation, adaptability and compassion.
  • Employ proven educational principles and best practices for promoting male learning.

Such efforts represent a revolutionary way of stimulating and assisting young boys to become productive and successful adults. When they no longer fall victim to societal neglect or slip through the cracks of an inadequate educational system, criminality and violence against women is likely to decline. “We plan to roll out more schools with this initiative to change the life course trajectory for boys into men and men in society,” said Dr. Edward Stephen, the founder of FMS.

FMS Involvement

Concerned individuals and organizations such as The California Endowment Health Foundation, are very interested in raising their children in the right ways and making decisions and investments that are in their interest. They also understand that to impact the cycle of violence against women that they must ensure that all young people have the opportunity to have a satisfying and productive role in society. By helping FMS in its mission to bring innovative charter school programs to those who need it most, communities can improve everyone’s quality of life.

To support a well overdue change in the current narrative for little boys and to help empower them in their lives, consider joining with the many companies, institutions, donors, alumni and ordinary individuals in every community who are already doing their part. Partner with FMS as a donor or sponsor, or lend a hand in some other way. Contact FMS online and offer active encouragement. The time to act is now.

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About the Author

Tim Patten has published the handy investment guide: MGTOW, Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement. Patten previously published a novel about establishing gender equality in professional sports, Roller Babes: 1950s Women of Roller Derby.




Masculinity Deconstructed

A recent episode of HBO’s Real Time with Bill Maher featured an interview with Rebecca Traister, feminist and author of All the Single Ladies, who sang praises for the book’s themes of the rise of independent women and gender equality. Among other things, she noted that more than 50 million unmarried women are now working, escaping male oppression. That total has been rising fast, with females now representing about half of the U.S. labor force. Indeed, the progress seen so far has inspired the National Organization for Women (NOW) to lessen its emphasis on workplace equality and focus instead on helping females to “appreciate their bodies.”

One fact that Ms. Traister failed to mention, however, was that this evolving landscape has also liberated us men from the deeply ingrained and longstanding belief that women should have unfettered access to our wallets, resources, capabilities and vitality. While she and others with a narrow minded lens focus almost exclusively on how women are benefitting from gender equality, we men have been liberated, empowered and enabled to express our masculinity more freely and become unshackled from traditional marital penitentiaries and financial oppression.

Masculinity Unchained

For the first time in our history, perhaps, a large and growing number of us men can pull our shoulders back, thrust chests out, stand tall and inhale deep, satisfying breaths of fresh air. We are free from the never-ending harangues imploring us to “Be a man!” “Get a better job!” “Grow up!” and “Man up!” Seemingly overnight, masculinity has been deconstructed from the patriarchal ideal that men have one role, and nothing else. We are no longer just protectors and providers. We can transgress arbitrary constraints and pursue unconstrained endeavors, such as being our genuine selves.

In sum, men can finally move beyond archaic and outdated notions that our role in society is to endure years of hard labor to support and ensure the survival of others. We no longer need to adhere to the socially-constructed stereotype of masculinity; we are free to define it for ourselves and celebrate it in any way we choose. “Being a man” no longer means we must act in uncomfortable or unfamiliar ways or engage in behavior that is at odds with the essence of our gender identity. It means we can be what we want or were meant to be.

Prophecies of Japan’s Herbivore Men and MGTOW

Over 50 million of us who are single have the option of reclaiming our virility, which has been subsumed by a long history of matriarchal oppression and the claustrophobic bondage of familial burdens. Fortunately, the path forward has already been illuminated by the social prophets of Japan’s Herbivore Men and the global movement, Men Going their Own Way (MGTOW), who long ago prophesized immense changes in the relationship between the sexes. Their prescience has helped forge a new masculinity and given rise to myriad choices for men in regard to their sexual relationships.

In the modern, post-patriarchal age, men are no longer obligated to be the family wage earner; we can be free of a life of labor that is not of our own choosing. We no longer have to put others’ needs ahead of all else, where we must work long and grueling hours with little opportunity to spend time with those, such as our children, who we are supporting. Manhood is now being defined as we see it, not as others do. Our manly dreams, aspirations and personal goals no longer come last. With both sexes having equal opportunity, acquiescence to an obsolete social framework is no longer men’s only option.

Houses of Detention

I rued the day my male friends decided to wed. After they married, things changed almost immediately. Suddenly, they had no time for the passionate pursuits, entertainment and hobbies they had enjoyed with others and me when they were single. They were pushed into household-ish activities like shopping with the wife. Before long, the spouse would control every moment of his day, occupying his time and attention with doing and fixing things for her, their family and their home. Over time, marriage sucked the life and soul out of my male friends.

In fact, legally tying the knot has often walled men into a kind of prison, where wives are the wardens who supervise all relationships, appointments, activities, gatherings and goings-on. In the past, men have, more often than not, grudgingly gone along–humbled, contained, subdued and restricted by the domestic goddess. Over time, this fostered widespread emasculation, leaving many males embarrassed and sometimes even relishing a wife-escape to the endless hours of drudgery at work they were forced to endure.

Sadly, even these efforts have been deemed not enough. Many wives have lofty and usually costly expectations about what they want or need. They press husbands to work harder, by putting in extra time or getting a second or third job, to ensure they can satisfy their biological destiny of being a mother. If men complain about their treatment or the unfairness of it all, they are punished by a lifetime of bickering and drama. “Happy wife, happy life” has become their motto of survival.

Freedom of Choice

Thankfully, feminism’s goal of gender equality has accelerated a long-overdue revolution that they probably did not anticipate. We men now have the option of jettisoning nightmarish and one-sided relationships in favor of meaningful, self-actualized lives of self-determination and happiness. We can choose to be single, with or without children. If we decide to start a family with someone we love, we can first ascertain that partners are willing and able to pay their fair share. If we marry, we can ensure that prenuptial agreements are in place, protecting what we have if or when she decides to call it quits.

We can finally free ourselves of the shackles of marital suppression, ending the backbreaking burden of being responsible for others until the day we die from overwork or exhaustion. It is now up to us whether we choose to be in a relationship or the single life, which in its modern incarnation has become quite amazing. We are reengineering masculinity in our own image and for ourselves. Women can no longer objectify us and seek to capitalize on our status, career, and financial or other resources.

Closing the Pay Gap

Gloria Steinman once said, “We believe that men and women should have equal rights.” The radical lesbian feminist leaders of the late-1970s women’s movement, in declaring a war on men, stated, “Women want everything that men have.” Nowadays, females do, in fact, have access to a broad and diverse range of jobs and vocations, with little holding them back. If they keep pushing themselves to the limit–as they have long pressured us to do–they can achieve a level of independence that they might once have only imagined.

By the same token, the advances they have made–and will likely continue to make–mean that the bar is being raised ever higher in regards to the contributions they must make to provide for themselves and their families. Ironically, we can help them go one step further. We can use what we learned from our role as obligatory breadwinners and implore them to “Get a better paying job!” and “Woman up!” We have the expertise and awareness of what it takes; in fact, no one understands this idea better than we do.

Indeed, we can help women by pressuring them in the way they pushed us: “Suck it up! Do what men have done for millennia! Close the pay gap by choosing extremely high paying occupations.” We should stand behind their desire for equality and encourage them to take good-paying jobs as roofers, street-sweepers, power-line installers, and refuse workers. We should support their efforts to become pilots, engineers, mechanics and deep-sea fishermen (or fisherwomen). We should discourage them from working in childcare, social work, administrative and food services, and other traditionally low-paying careers.

If women are as loyal to their families as they always insisted we be, they will undoubtedly seek out and consider occupations that pay high wages but demand substantial effort and involve a great deal of risk. As they expected of us, they shouldn’t hesitate to do whatever is necessary to bring home the bacon. They should be reassured that being under pressure, feeling constantly tired and frustrated, and relegating their individual needs and wants to the background is necessary in an equal opportunity world.

By then, women will truly understand what it means to be the breadwinner.

About the Author

Tim Patten published the celebration of masculinity MGTOW, Building Wealth and Power. He also wrote WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement. Patten previously published a novel about establishing gender equality in professional sports, Roller Babes: 1950s Women of Roller Derby.

Yes, We Cry

Many Americans celebrated the June 9, 2016 report concluding that Hillary Clinton would be the first female nominee for the most powerful office on Earth. Meanwhile, the National Organization for Women, having declared satisfaction with the level of equality in America, has focused attentions on a “love your body” campaign. These and other developments would seem to indicate that the long-running and frequently hyperbolic “debate” on gender and relations between the sexes has evolved into something more thoughtful and constructive.

Unfortunately, not everyone has gotten the message. Academic feminists, for instance, continue to press for adoption of Men’s and Masculinity Studies programs on college campuses. This curriculum maintains, among other things, that a social framework where boys are told, “Don’t cry, son,” as well as overexposure to hyper-masculinized representations of heroic stoicism, has caused males to suppress their emotions, leaving most of us expressively “underdeveloped.” As a result, we are often confronted by frustrated women who ask, “Can’t you just share your feelings?” Others take a more assertive tack–“Show some emotion!” they say. If we don’t cry, it means there is something wrong with us.

Are Men Dispassionate?

My first pet, Princess, was a beagle who taught me a lot about love and loyalty. When I was eight-years old, she went mad, as some dogs do, and bit my best friend, Tommy Mitchell. Consequently, the first love of my life had to be put down. At dusk on a rainy day, my dad led me into the Wisconsin woods, where he did the deed with a .22-caliber pistol. A shot rang out against the dampened tree limbs. Princess’s head slumped back and she collapsed. Suddenly, she lay very still. I looked away, stunned. I sniffled, and then cried deeply.

“Boys don’t cry. It’s a dog,” my father muttered.

I sat in the car while Dad buried Princess. I cried and hugged myself tightly, trying to will things back to the way they were only a day before. I went home and watched a movie, featuring rugged John Wayne, on TV.


I have never forgotten that evening when Princess left us. But there have also been other moments and experiences through the years, some good and some bad, that have remained with me, even as I enjoy my retirement from the work force. I have been passionate and emotional about many things throughout my life, but I’m sure the same could be said about others. Contrary to what we men are told, almost all of us have cried and experienced deep and powerful feelings.

Underneath Our Sleeves

And yet, many believe otherwise, largely because we do not wear our emotions on our sleeves. No small number of us prefer to cry in private or, perhaps out of embarrassment, we shed tears more quietly than women do. Societal expectations have likely played a role, but so, too, has our past. Researchers who have evaluated the differences from an evolutionary perspective have concluded that our ancient male ancestors needed to suppress sentiment when they were protecting the village, killing enemies, or hunting for food; over time it was natural for us to keep doing so. As designated protectors, we often mute expressiveness in an effort to better assess circumstances in case we need to leap into action.

Many females, in contrast, are sensitive and quick to show their feelings, imploring us to comfort them and assuage their anxieties in return. We are expected to attend to their emotional needs and grievances, many of which seem endless. Such a dynamic makes it difficult for female partners who might naturally assume the same holds true when things are reversed. But that is not the case: men and women are different and deal with emotions and circumstances in differing ways. Our reactions are typically not like theirs; in many cases, we do not seek their emotional support.

In fact, when we experience fear, it often stirs up empathy so deep that we feel compelled to run to the rescue and save lives. This heroic response seems to come naturally, an instinct at least some of us are born with. Most people, male or female, would probably jump out of their skin if confronted by someone in immediate and grave danger. But men often become extraordinary heroes at such moments. In the aftermath of a house fire or similar tragedy, it is not all that odd to hear a man say, “I saw women stand around crying in hysterics while valuable minutes were slipping away. Another guy and I ran in and did what we had to help those who were in trouble.”

Flawed, or Simply Different?

In family and more relaxed settings, it’s not difficult to see men and women communicating and emoting at different levels, vibrations and methods. In fact, it has become something of a cliché: men complain that their spouses talk too much, while women complain that their husbands only grunt. But this does not necessarily indicate a failing: more often than not, it stems from physiological differences. Scientists who have studied brain function have determined, for example, that nerve signals can follow alternate neuropathways in men and women. By analyzing brain scans, researchers have concluded that the two sexes process feelings by way of different behaviors and patterns, and at dissimilar times and circumstances.

Even then, associating the divergence with obvious physical differences may not tell the whole story. There are those who believe that transsexual and gender-fluid individuals can have much in common with individuals of the opposite sex, or the gender of those they closely identify with. Regardless, an assessment of the binary male brain points to a results-oriented focus, geared towards action and problem-solving. We seek to crack puzzles, ponder universal meanings and explore new horizons. When faced with danger, our minds move into overdrive in a quest for answers and actions to take.

The female brain, in contrast, seems to work in a more process-oriented way. Most are quick to connect, sharing emotions and explaining behavior, delving into various illuminations after networking with others. Girls and women favor social interaction and arrangements where people can come together, either in person or indirectly by telephone, text or email, to communicate and address whatever issues may be at hand. To solve problems, they will often seek to assemble task forces to share ideas, see how others feel, and reach a consensus that takes a great many perspectives into account.

Arguably, the differences between the two sexes can be summed up by an old joke: “When a couple are in a foreign city and get lost, the man looks at the map, while the woman askes someone for directions.”

More than Physiology

Still, while an understanding of gender-based factors is helpful in grasping the differences, physiology isn’t the only factor that influences the way women and men see, evaluate and connect with the world. Career choices, job requirements and other pressures can also influence how individual minds and emotional mechanisms work. Needless to say, understanding this fact can provide useful clues about how best to communicate and work with someone we may care about deeply.

Among those whose careers require them to process emotional imagery and interact with others on a regular basis are health care workers, teachers, social workers, therapists and counselors. In contrast, those who fall into the problem-solving camp, which can include both men and women who are task-oriented and focused on results and solutions, are manual laborers, electricians, technical workers, engineers and those in jobs that involve high physical risk.

Sometimes, Words Say it All

Whether or not an individual fits with the above, there are other ways of assessing where they might fall on the process-action-oriented scale. Simple as it sounds, this includes listening to what they say and how they describe the everyday realities of home, work and life, as illustrated in the table of examples below:


I saw your mother and she didn’t say “hi”?

How are you feeling?

Do you still love me?

Did you do that to intentionally hurt me?

I saw Carol and Dave today.

Why didn’t you call me back?

How was your day?

I love you more every day.


Did you make any progress at work today?

Are the deadlines close?

Did you solve anything today?

I’m trying to repair my credit–any ideas?

What are you trying to work out?

Is it more complicated than you expected?

After finishing the project, let’s party.

Did you hear we found water on Mars?


The fact that individuals may fall into one camp or another, whether driven by physiology or other factors, means we must not bow down to broad-brush stereotypes, promoted largely by feminist advocates of women’s, gender and masculinities studies curricula, that men, masculinity and gender are social constructs. Such programs are mere propaganda, designed to promote a political agenda and nothing more. Rather than accepting their unscientific assertions that men need to be changed, we should be working to improve how all of us–men and women–exchange ideas and communicate with one another.

For those of us who find themselves in relationships and settings were others don’t respect and understand our differences, and can’t stop labeling men as having stunted emotional maturity, the answer is simple: separate ourselves from these toxic individuals. Instead, choose an extraordinary escape hatch from women’s and society’s misunderstandings–the men of MGTOW. Once you reach out and communicate with our genuine masculine souls, you’ll find friends forever.


There is no doubt that men are resourceful and embody the profound passions that have helped to build the greatest civilization on Earth. In the exciting world that we see ahead, things can only get better.

About the Author


Tim Patten published his own search for identity in a hysterical and moving autobiography: My Razzle Dazzle under his pen name Todd Peterson. Tim also released in 2016: MGTOW, Building Wealth and Power and WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement. Patten previously published the novel about establishing gender equality in professional sports, Roller Babes: 1950s Women of Roller Derby.


Patriarchy and Lesbian Feminist Scholars

Lesbian feminist author Maria Mies once wrote, “If patriarchy had a specific beginning in history, it can certainly have an end.” As with other feminist scholars, a group dominated by mostly white lesbians who share a perversely narrow-minded perspective, Mies is convinced that patriarchy–as well as the male sex–is oppressive and malevolent to women. Ostensibly, they advocate for female equality, but their lengthy lectures say otherwise. Their words detail a horrendously aggressive fraternity of privileged white men who pay women pennies on the dollar as they socially and institutionally oppress, dominate, discriminate against, and abuse them.

In fact, the feminists’ words and actions have little to do with righting a wrong, but are instead founded on a theoretical framework, crafted by a lesbian elite, that maintains males are disgusting and immoral by nature. These experts promote no remedies other than the destruction of patriarchy. In some ways, they are like society’s scolding mothers, warning little boys that masturbating will make them blind. They project a worldview based on a myopically gendered lens that has been characterized as a hate crime by Canada’s Studio Brule and a social disease by Milo Yiannoulos. At their most extreme, their theories have morphed into cancers of annihilation, marked by such derisive memes as StopPatriarchy, KillAllWhiteMen, AllMenAreRapists and KillAllMen.

History of Patriarchy

Patriarchy first appeared in Africa about 200,000 years ago, inspired by a natural order of human needs and talents. In virtually all known histories of our ancient ancestors, the role of the male was that of provider and protector; his strength and daring were deemed critical to the survival of the tribe. The best of the lot were (and are) referred to as “alpha males,” idolized for their contributions. There’s little doubt that the rise of the alpha male was inevitable and necessary, enabling mankind to blaze a trail through dangerous and unfamiliar terrain. (That does not mean they were the only ones. Lesbians or gender-fluid tribe members might also have been hunter-gatherers alongside them. )

Over time, the alpha males became the secular and spiritual leaders, kings, pharaohs and emperors, expanding their wealth, influence and power over others. They launched and drove unrelenting efforts to build great monuments, palaces and religious shrines; some spent the whole of their lives creating the many wonders of the world. From the great Pyramids of Egypt, to the Hanging Gardens of Babylon, to the Statue of Zeus in Greece–the lowliest toiled and slaved for these leaders in their efforts to leave enduring marks on the world.

And yet, while many undoubtedly suffered under the oppressive will of these powerful individuals, it is apparent across all civilizations that patriarchy helped to harness and improve a harsh and often violent world, spurring the development and implementation of innovative technologies and breathtaking infrastructure, including electricity and lighting networks, water supply and sewage treatment facilities, railroads, highways, bridges and other features of modern transportation systems, and the construction of homes, schools, hospitals and other structures. A male-dominated social order was responsible for any number of developments, including the Internet, which have benefited countless individuals of varying means. In many respects, patriarchy is everything, and there is little else.

Women in Patriarchy

That said, not all of history’s movers and shakers have been male. There have been queens and wives with substantial privilege and power. Eleanor of Aquitaine, born in 1122, was one of the wealthiest and most powerful women in Europe and the world during the High Middle Ages. Egyptian leader Hatshepsut, who lived from 1508 BC to 1458 BC, has been regarded as one of the most influential females in the ancient world. Empress Wu Zetian, who was born in 625 AD and lived for 80 years during the Tang Dynasty, is considered to be the most dominant in Chinese history. There was even a queen of Spain who commanded men to risk their lives sailing three ships into a dangerous unknown in a search for spices; they accidentally discovered the Americas.

While the gender imbalance has not been wholly addressed, it is apparent that our world has a richer and far more diverse social fabric than feminist scholars acknowledge. These self-appointed arbiters of society’s alleged failings have defined a naïve model of what the problem is and how it can be fixed. This, in turn, has promulgated propaganda that frightens and disturbs people, especially students, with offensive distinctions and discriminatory labels. While some feminists might have good intentions, all are guilty of using broad strokes and detestable stereotypes in regard to males. Equality aside, there must be a reason for this defilement, other than hatred.

Lesbian Culture

We often hear gender studies professors declare that gender, femininity and masculinity are social constructs, though oddly enough, many will also argue that gay and lesbian people are born that way. In truth, social structures in the gay community of San Francisco–where, one might say, birds of a feather flock together–indicate that gender preferences and perspectives, even in the “gay mecca,” naturally diverge. On any given night, one might see men wearing David Bowie, four-inch, come-fuck-me platform shoes, poised to dance the night away at high-tech nightclubs. In contrast, one might find women who have sequestered themselves inside murky sports bars, discussing such topics as sliding-scale entry fees for the poor and marginalized.

Certainly, some lesbians dislike, even hate men. The ladies at a gay bar can often be heard sharing envious jabs emasculating privileged white males, while the Alix Dobkin song, A Woman’s Love, echoes from rickety speakers amid clacking pool balls. Lesbian bars, in contrast to gay-oriented counterparts, are often located in dank and dangerous parts of town. Inside, it is not uncommon to see heavy-set bullies, terrifying to the eye, interacting with boys who look like hooligan girls, while lipstick-lesbians at the bar swear like sailors, waiting, it seems, for the “right” individual. Some patrons are defensive and aggressive; most are manlier than the real thing. The atmosphere reeks of toxic masculinity, feline jealousy and, sadly, lesbian-on-lesbian sexual assault.

If a man happens to walk through the door, he will invariably be faced with behavior that leaves him cringing and with the urge to back off and head in the other direction. In many ways, lesbian culture seems to be a parody of college-level feminist courses, but without the textbooks, note taking and tuition fees. In this self-designed utopia, these individuals have created a female-only social hierarchy–a paradise without patriarchy. Evidently, they want society, more broadly speaking, to be the same.

The Lesbian War on Men

Advocates of this alternative reality have found another great watering hole in college-level humanities departments. Their influence has been growing since the 1960s, when lesbians came out in droves as the women’s and gay rights movements gained pace. An example of how such thinking has distorted our worldview can be seen in a 1970s BBC documentary, Angry Wimmin. In the film, which explores the origins of the women’s movement, angry lesbians describe patriarchy as “a war on men.” They denigrate male sexuality and spout forth on theories that feminist scholars use to prove that all men are violent, oppressive and potential rapists.

“Angry Wimmin” – A BBC documentary on Lesbian Feminism

Through endless repetition, as well as the unthinking acquiescence and misguided support of the media and the political hierarchy, this view has become the basis for seemingly acceptable slurs that denigrate men as evil and dangerous–which, needless to say, are having a harmful influence on those individuals, especially the young and impressionable, who hear such messages. Unfortunately, such distorted notions are not helping to make society more equal or just. Rather, they are spawning an endless cycle of disgust and distrust that is having a debilitating and far-reaching effect, especially on young boys.

Our Modern Patriarchy

As noted earlier, patriarchy is widespread, impossible–and unnecessary–to dismantle. That said, it is becoming increasingly inclusive, with females such as France’s Liliane Bettencourt, the richest woman in the world, and Alice Walton, the second richest with $32.3 billion to her name, near the top of the pyramid. In fact, reports suggest that 10% of the world’s most powerful people are women, while 1% are people of color. Diverse and ever changing, this social framework is protecting women and providing financial and other benefits to many of those who been disenfranchised.

Unfortunately, the lesbian scholars who exert such a powerful influence on college-level humanities, women’s and gender studies programs, and whose careers have been built on warped theories, disagree. But their influence is diminishing. Rational and clear-thinking people are recognizing that all genders, races and nationalities must surmount any number of obstacles to become socially mobile and financially buoyant.

As a result, they are seeing the feminist mantra for what it is: fringe-nutcase conspiracy theories that rely on hyperbolic narrow-mindedness to justify a collective aversion toward men. The pseudo-scholars have built a rickety latticework on propaganda and half-truths. They have spent considerable time slaying invisible dragons and poisoning minds. Instead of helping people to become more productive and happy, they have inspired anger and anarchy.


Even so, there is no reason to try to rid the world of these lost souls or disrupt their livelihoods. If they choose to escape from what they imagine patriarchy to be by congregating in closed (and closed-minded) communities, socializing in lesbian bars, and proselyting in the women’s and gender studies departments of institutions of higher learning across the country, so be it. They have made their choices freely, and they have the same right as any of us has to live lives and embark on careers that we believe are best for us.

But that does not mean we should do nothing. We should try to benefit from their mistakes. We should take pains to understand their gendered lens and choose to inclusively move forward, ignoring the false credo of male domination. We must also come to terms with the secret of happiness: accepting what is. For all its faults, patriarchy has, since time immemorial, helped to solve a great many of mankind’s problems and protected us from harm. We should modify and enhance it for the benefit of all.  By embracing how things actually work, we can build our own power, wealth and freedom, and can draw others toward us that we can love and appreciate.


About the Author

Tim Patten published his own search for identity in a hysterical and moving autobiography: My Razzle Dazzle under his pen name Todd Peterson. Tim also released in 2016: MGTOW, Building Wealth and Power and WHY I CHEAT11 campfire stories for men’s ears only. Both books are a celebration of masculinity and pay homage to the modern men’s liberation movement. Patten previously published the novel about establishing gender equality in professional sports, Roller Babes: 1950s Women of Roller Derby.